Recovery from Loss: Being Reminded to Trust the Universe

It has been a long time since I wrote in this blog. Since my last post much has happened bot good and bad.


I got married in May 2014 and have a very happy life with my husband 3 cats and mini schnauzer. I am grateful for my husband's love and support. I am not sure h
ow I would have gotten through the last 2 years without him.

We lost his father, my father, 2 of my best friends 1 of Jeff's good friends all of whom were in our wedding party and then some other friends and family as well. In total we lost 10 different people in the past 2 years and as hard as that has been we know we were brought together to help each other through the tough times.

Then last summer I started to have health issues that have taken a year to get sorted. There were times I wanted to give up and just stop but then I would get heart felt  messages from some wonderful clients as to how much the work I do has helped them in in their lives. These messages would arrive just when I needed them most and I know that the senders really had no idea how stressed I was. Each time this happened my energy was renewed and I was able to keep going.

Just as I was sorting out my health I was hit hard with all the losses we had gone through. I had not been able to work as much as I needed and now the bills were more than we could handle. Again I wanted to quit but then we were guided to a way of managing our finances. It has not been easy but we are learning to live within our means and without credit cards. It can be frustrating at times but in the long run we will be debt free and able to make a  fresh start without going through bankruptcy. Money is tight but I am reminded to trust the universe. I am finding ways to cut down our expenses and able to pay for the things we need with the money we make. When we need money work has come through and we are really blessed to see this happen each time we are in real need.

As much as the last two years have pushed my husband and myself to our limits we have become more in tune with the universe and thankful for the blessings that have come our way and continue to come to us as needed.  It is not always obvious but when we look back we do see the magic of how the universe works.

Soul Mate… The MOST misunderstood idea in modern spiritual circles today…

The idea of a Soul Mate is not a new concept, but it has to be one of the most misunderstood concepts within modern theories of new age and eastern spirituality. Again western thinkers (or non thinkers and those who wish to practice spiritual bypass as the case may be) have taken this term out of context and done much harm to the desperate seeker who is clinging to an old relationship because of some misguided concept of Soul Mate. People who are not thinking or who want pat answers to this life may be spiritual dilettantes who do not really want to work on themselves. Much of the time these folks are the neediest of people and will cling to the idea that there is one “Soul Mate” for them and will not in many cases move forward with their lives even when the other person does.

It does not help that some readers are unscrupulous and will take advantage of these vulnerable seekers by promising special spells and rituals to bring he lost lover back. When the seeker realizes this is a scam they are understandably angry but still many of these seekers are just not ready and willing to hear the blunt truth even if the reader does try to be honest with them in a kind way.

For a reader like me, it is absolutely painful at times to try to get through to such desperate folks that there is not just o

ne person for each of us but, rather that as we grow and change so to will our “ideal person” change also. This is the fact of the matter but it is not what some really distressed clients want to hear. I have found myself in the awful position of having to tell the seeker like it is that the ex (assumed by them to be their Soul Mate) is NOT coming back. It is a difficult thing to do but the reputable reader will not feed into hopeless delusions. Even with trying to do that though the reader is then blamed for the seekers problems and usually the seeker moves on to the next reader who might tell them what they want to hear.

So What IS a Soul Mate Anyway?

Soul Mate as I understand it is NOT a perfect match with whom you are meant to spend the rest of your life in a rosy, fantasy love relationship, rather this term refers a concept related to reincarnation where in the Soul Mate acts as a mirror for the individual to learn from.

Yes you will feel comfortable/familiar with this person should you meet them as they are similar to you and brought to you to show you something about yourself. Many people report feeling like they have known that person for their whole lives and yet the come to a psychic trying to figure out why the relationship went bad.

Well, being in a relationship with your spiritual mirror is not always easy and can in fact be unpleasant. The biggest problem in modern spiritual circles though is a serious misconception of what a Soul Mate really is.

There are 3 types of relationship mirrors/ Soul Mates. As Arianni Masters at (http://www.soulmaterelationships.com/soulmatearticles/soulmatedefinition.htm) so concisely expresses it:

One is the mirror of who you were. This mirror gives you the opportunity to see how far you have come, the chance to experience the karma that you have already cleared. So don’t get caught up in this relationship worried about why it is coming back at this time, thank it and let it go.

A second type of relationship is the one that is mirroring where you are now on your path. If an issue or person has an emotional "charge" to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the things you have not yet finished in your karma. These are the things that we are the most blind to.

The last type of relationship is the one that mirrors your potential. This allows you to have a glimpse at who you could be, if you wanted to. This person is usually someone that you idealize and put on a pedestal.

Now let’s look at this explanation more closely. Nowhere does Arianni Masters say that the Soul Mate is the person who you are supposed to be with for the rest of life. Nowhere does this author say that there is one person who is just for you and who will be there no matter how messed up you are to fix your life etc etc. In fact this author makes it quite clear that the reason for these relationship mirrors/Soul Mates is for you, me us as individuals to learn about ourselves so we can grow spiritually and clear karma. It is not about fixing or changing the other person but rather about looking deeper into ourselves and gaining insights that will help each of us to move forward in a positive way.

Quoting Arianni Masters again:

“… the more you clear up issues for yourself, the more you ARE the ‘right’ person, the more you will attract the person you are looking for.”

With that in mind, my comment to past, present and prospective clients who might be in a hopeless place in their romantic lives is simply that the reading is for you and is about where you are at and how you are going to work on yourself. Desperately seeking a so called Soul Mate (as per the common misuse of this term) when you are in a bad will only lead to a situation where you meet a similar negative match because like draws like.

If you are depressed and needy at the time you meet that person you think is the one likely if they are drawn to you they are also depressed and needy also. But be aware that there will come a point where one of you will raise your energetic vibrations and so the connection will become uncomfortable and one of the pair will feel they must move on even if the other does not want to let go of the relationship.

For the one feeling left behind this can be difficult to accept but travelling from medium to medium or psychic to psychic and expecting that they can cast a spell or do some magic or even predict when the ex partner is totally unrealistic. And yet too many people expect exactly that and then become bitter and spiteful and feel abused when they do not achieve the desired result or hear what they so badly want to hear.

The best a medium can do is connect with your deceased loved ones and bring the messages of encouragement forward that they have for you so that you can move forward with your life. The best a psychic can do is tell you the type of person that is a good match for you and give you glimpses into your life situation pointing out possibilities where a change in actions and behaviors on your part might led you to the result you want.

Don’t go to a reader and expect that by some miracle that this intuitive worker will change your life for you. This is not what psychic readings are about. Readings are only a guide for you to consider possibilities that you as the seeker might not have thought of. Readings for most people are a time when they connect with deceased loved ones and find comfort and perhaps some new directions to try. Readers can point you in useful directions but the path you take and the choices you make are yours alone. The only one who can change your life is you!

Healing Messages Come From the Least Expected Places…. Thank you!

I met a very in tune lady on Monday, I must say we made a real connection and for me it was the thing I needed. Sometimes people can say things without knowing what they are touching upon.

As the past few blogs show I have been dealing with some very negative circumstances in my life and was feeling frustrated and overwhelmed, and through the kind and sensible words of this woman I was given what I believe was a message from Spirit that helped me to better understand what it is I am to do and learn as a reader and a teacher and why I was being challenged at this time.

While some people might not like what I have said in past blogs, I say what I think at the time to get others thinking too. More people tend to appreciate it than not so I guess that is a good thing. And in the case of this in tune lady who answered some struggles I was having; she saw something valuable in what I am doing and decided to connect. So it goes to show that you have to put your thoughts out there. Some may not like them and so be it. On the other hand, by being real and true to myself and honest in the work I do I draw amazing people to me and so will always risk offending the naysayers, and the negative jealous sorts for the chance to meet genuine, connected people.

I just wanted to take time to thank Julia and Spirit for touching my life though her words when I really needed it.

Ed and Red's Night Party Spot

Working as a psychic allows one to meet and greet folks from a variety of social circles and the media tends to love psychics for some reason. I would guess that Ed the Sock and Red his vivacious co-host are no exceptions...

In late November I was invited by the show's Communications Liaison to do a guest spot on Ed and Red's Night Party... I must say that when I first talked to Roxane I thought yeah sure... (I get lots of people who tell me that they are in the media so they can get a free reading. Not sure why they think it works... I mean as a psychic I might just catch on if someone is trying to scam me right??)

Anyway, Roxane and the gust spot with Ed the Sock and Red (Liana K) turned out to be very real! What a blast! Crazy set and a fun bunch of people who enjoy putting the show together. It is a lot of work but a lot of fun too from what I could tell amidst all the organized chaos!



For those who don't know Ed the Sock, he is this obnoxious grey sock with bright green hair that smokes a cigar. He prides himself on saying the unspeakable on TV and the show is campy and yet loads of fun. Lots of scantily clad young women and Red (Liana K) tend to appeal to the mostly male audience. Red (Liana K) for her part as co-host has her hands full trying to keep Ed the sock in line but usually she manages to pull it off.

Now I must say that at first I felt slightly overdressed for the occasion and for me that was a good thing LOL... Seeing all the hot tub girls in their various styles of bikinis and undies and bras was really something. Yep TV and photos do add 10 pounds and these young ladies made me very aware of just how much weight I have put on since my mid 20s. My mild insecurity aside, once I got over the shock of seeing the go go dancing and the hot tub girls at work, I got quite comfy and felt quite welcomed on the set...

When I told friends I was doing a spot on Ed and Red's Night Party they warned me that Ed was gonna make fun of me and as one friend put it "he's gonna eat you alive!" Much to my surprise and relief Ed was quite tame, but then there is nothing quite like being interviewed by Red (Liana K) with Ed the Sock over your shoulder making obnoxious, distracting comments... All and all it was quite an entertaining experience and believe it or not I would do it again in a heartbeat!

As to when the interview I did will be aired I am not sure... Perhaps some fans of the show will let me know if I don't catch it...



The show airs on City TV Toronto at 11:30 pm on Friday nights and is re- broadcast on the same station at 11:30 pm on Sunday nights. If you want more of Ed and Red you can always find them at http://www.edthesock.com.

Psychic Reading with your Morning Java??

The following article was published in The Toronto Star. Fun things to do in Toronto before 8am.

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The city that's still asleep

In which our intrepid reporter ventures out at sunrise to prove that, yes, there is life after dawn

Aug 16, 2007 04:30 AM

Michele Henry
Staff Reporter

Words to live by at 6:20 in the morning: "Just don't go out wearing no underwear."

A man who calls himself Smiley, lithe with a natty braid stretching down his back, delivered this advice to no one in particular as he feigned a stumble through the front door of Vesta Lunch. It's a 24-hour truck stop at Bathurst and Dupont Sts., notorious for its surly wait staff, crusty clientele and vinyl bar stools.

"How are ya? I'm drunk," he says. "I'm kidding. Gimme a coffee." He plunks himself down at a stool near mine and snarls in my direction.

There it is: my initiation into the world of early-morning Toronto – a world shrouded in semi-darkness, with idling garbage trucks, the odd jogger darting between fluorescent street signs and people who lurk in laneways or pontificate like Smiley.

I blink in his direction, but glance past him through Vesta's floor-to-ceiling windows. The scene outside resembles a ghost town: Cars streak across the empty road. Traffic lights chirp for no one. It's quiet – even a bit eerie when the pulse of the city isn't thumping.

This is the first day of my hunt to find out what's on in this city between 6 and 9 a.m. as the subway squeals into motion and most locals hit the snooze button. The challenge is to pinpoint activities that don't include wandering aimlessly, praying or exercising.

Toronto's a bustling metropolis by day, but it was a chore to find quality leisure activities that fire up in the post-dawn hours. Cricket fanatics like to hit the pitch before 9 a.m., but most clubs are members only. Toronto spas open fashionably late, so manicures are out of the question. Forget about champagne and orange juice at 6 a.m. – the Four Seasons won't even serve fancy alcohol before noon. And gambling? Hustlers usually sleep in. But there are slots at Woodbine, which are open 24/7.

Many activities are unpredictable. After-hours clubs promise to be packed past dawn, but doors often shut early, with no warning. A handwritten note tacked to the entrance of a 24-hour bowling alley greeted me at 7 a.m. one morning, explaining the place was closed because of an "emergency."

On the upside, the sidewalks outside Toronto's many bakeries fill with the smell of fresh bread and coffee is plentiful.

My first stop, after wrenching myself from slumber at 5:45 a.m. this morning, was Caffé Brasiliano on Dundas St. W. It opens at 5:30. The espresso machine screeches to life, sending a jolt of noise through the café. Some patrons perk up and nod in mutual fatigue.

Plumber Jonathan Fernandez and other labourers, all calloused hands, work boots and lunch pails, sip from miniature espresso cups, outside. It's a daily ritual.

"It's always the same people in here," Fernandez, 21, says. "We're like robots."

So are early morning exercisers. An aerobics class at Extreme Fitness at Bay and Bloor Sts. is packed.

"Knees up," yells the instructor. "Keep moving."

Everyone's bouncing like a bunny on crack, but there's a camaraderie as they shed their fatigue. It's as if they share a secret, an ownership of this more efficient, quiet world.

The light strikes me when I leave the gym. And I'm shocked, almost angered, to join a sidewalk teeming with fast-walking pedestrians.

Late risers. Who do they think they are?

Where to live it up while everyone else is waking up

A handful of early-morning sites we visited on our week-long quest:

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Comfort Zone, 480 Spadina Ave.

No klub kidz waving light sticks. No one barfing on the sidewalk. I'm disappointed. It's 6 a.m. and The Comfort Zone is closed. Manager Jose swore the after-hours club, open past 6 a.m. Friday to Monday, would be jumping, but I arrived to find the doors padlocked shut. Reliability before 9 a.m.? I think not.

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Metro Golf Dome, 125 Milner Ave.

Feel like swinging a metal object before your morning coffee? It takes 15 minutes to get from downtown Toronto to Scarborough at 6 a.m., where I round into the only driving range that caters to golfers jonesing for an early-morning swing. The green's already carpeted with golf balls and the air's thick with Type-A tension. Golf's a serious, take-no-prisoners game, even at 7 a.m. "Sorry, can't talk, few more swings, then gotta go," one golfer says.

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CAFfÉ BRASILIANO, 851 Dundas St. W.

A few patrons flop limply in booths at the back of the restaurant, and jolt upright when the espresso machine comes to life. The dimly lit space gets busier by the second. Owner Ken Connors is chipper, but not in an annoying way. "You're not gonna find anything around here that's open at 6 a.m.," he says of downtown Toronto. No one gets up that early – except him. "You become a morning person when you're in this business."

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Bowlarama West, 5429 Dundas St. W.

Narrow windows surrounding the front door reveal a lights-off but lively bowling alley with all the charm the sport has to offer– moulded plastic benches, flashing lights, win-a-prize kiosks, shoe rental, snack bar. That's why it's extra disappointing to find the doors of this 24-hour joint, inside a strip mall, shut at 7 a.m. A handwritten note taped to the door explains the alley is closed due to "emergency."

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Vesta Lunch, 474 Dupont St.

This 24-hour truck stop at Bathurst and Dupont Sts. never fails to amuse. One patron slumps over the counter. Another cracks wise about coffee with waiter Manuel Cornejo, 24, who says there's a steady stream of customers in the early morning even if it doesn't get too busy.

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Jet Fuel, 519 Parliament St.

The stainless steel bar is swarmed with patrons, bleary-eyed and in desperate need of this high-octane coffee. The barista can hardly keep up with demand. I smack a handful of change down on the counter, plunge a few spoons of sugar into my tall to-go cup and exchange friendly words with a few random patrons. In and out in under seven minutes. A few sips of the appropriately named brew and I feel like I can fly.

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Moksha Yoga, 1498 Yonge St., second floor

It's 6:30 a.m. and about 95C in this room. I'm not sure if it's possible to stay awake when it feels like I'm lying in a pool of heated molasses. There are about 10 people in this early morning hot, silent yoga class – and I'm in for 90 minutes of posing without any spoken instruction. The class is calming and surprisingly energizing. And at this time of day any worries about seeming uncoordinated melt away.

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Commisso Brothers & Racco, 8 Kincort St.

I'd wager this is as close as Toronto comes to serving coffee Italian-style. If you're not in the mood for an early-morning veal sandwich – or ravioli, roast chicken, lasagne or a cannoli – sidle up next to the bar and shoot back an espresso. At this wee hour there's more Italian than English spoken in the convenience store/grocery. While the parking lot out front is deserted and dark, it smells of baking bread.

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Psychic, 63 Superior Ave.

Spirits don't sleep in even if people do, says Catherine MacDonald, 37, who operates from a closet-sized room in her basement apartment. This psychic doesn't often do early-morning readings, but is available almost anytime by appointment. She's cheerful and ready by 8 a.m. when I arrive to have my fortune told, and says channelling the deceased comes naturally at any time of day. "To me, it's like second nature," she says.

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Extreme Fitness, Bay and Bloor

Sweat is in the air at 7 a.m. The instructor's voice is booming and exercisers are too tired to resist her instruction. But as the music picks up so does our adrenaline. There's nothing like an early-morning fitness high to put life into perspective.

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Ruby Chinese Restaurant, 1571 Sandhurst Circle

Managers open the doors at 7:45, even though food carts don't start rolling through the banquet-like restaurant until 8:45. Tables fill quickly with diners, newspapers in hand, waiting for freshly steamed dumplings, sticky rice, pork buns and congee. English is a language spoken sparely by staff, so dim sum serves me well. I just point.

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Four Seasons Hotel, Avenue Rd. and Bloor St.

At 8 a.m. breakfast-seekers are dressed to the nines – full faces of makeup, not a coiffed hair out of place and Windsor-knotted ties. The well-to-do can dine on tofu-cheese, turkey sausage and egg-white omelettes, which is what I choose to eat, at tables spread with white linens. Morning paper's free and chatter is all business. Breakfast, with orange juice and tea, comes in at just under $30.

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Michele Henry

Source: http://www.thestar.com/News/GTA/article/246692