Soul Mate… The MOST misunderstood idea in modern spiritual circles today…

The idea of a Soul Mate is not a new concept, but it has to be one of the most misunderstood concepts within modern theories of new age and eastern spirituality. Again western thinkers (or non thinkers and those who wish to practice spiritual bypass as the case may be) have taken this term out of context and done much harm to the desperate seeker who is clinging to an old relationship because of some misguided concept of Soul Mate. People who are not thinking or who want pat answers to this life may be spiritual dilettantes who do not really want to work on themselves. Much of the time these folks are the neediest of people and will cling to the idea that there is one “Soul Mate” for them and will not in many cases move forward with their lives even when the other person does.

It does not help that some readers are unscrupulous and will take advantage of these vulnerable seekers by promising special spells and rituals to bring he lost lover back. When the seeker realizes this is a scam they are understandably angry but still many of these seekers are just not ready and willing to hear the blunt truth even if the reader does try to be honest with them in a kind way.

For a reader like me, it is absolutely painful at times to try to get through to such desperate folks that there is not just o

ne person for each of us but, rather that as we grow and change so to will our “ideal person” change also. This is the fact of the matter but it is not what some really distressed clients want to hear. I have found myself in the awful position of having to tell the seeker like it is that the ex (assumed by them to be their Soul Mate) is NOT coming back. It is a difficult thing to do but the reputable reader will not feed into hopeless delusions. Even with trying to do that though the reader is then blamed for the seekers problems and usually the seeker moves on to the next reader who might tell them what they want to hear.

So What IS a Soul Mate Anyway?

Soul Mate as I understand it is NOT a perfect match with whom you are meant to spend the rest of your life in a rosy, fantasy love relationship, rather this term refers a concept related to reincarnation where in the Soul Mate acts as a mirror for the individual to learn from.

Yes you will feel comfortable/familiar with this person should you meet them as they are similar to you and brought to you to show you something about yourself. Many people report feeling like they have known that person for their whole lives and yet the come to a psychic trying to figure out why the relationship went bad.

Well, being in a relationship with your spiritual mirror is not always easy and can in fact be unpleasant. The biggest problem in modern spiritual circles though is a serious misconception of what a Soul Mate really is.

There are 3 types of relationship mirrors/ Soul Mates. As Arianni Masters at (http://www.soulmaterelationships.com/soulmatearticles/soulmatedefinition.htm) so concisely expresses it:

One is the mirror of who you were. This mirror gives you the opportunity to see how far you have come, the chance to experience the karma that you have already cleared. So don’t get caught up in this relationship worried about why it is coming back at this time, thank it and let it go.

A second type of relationship is the one that is mirroring where you are now on your path. If an issue or person has an emotional "charge" to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the things you have not yet finished in your karma. These are the things that we are the most blind to.

The last type of relationship is the one that mirrors your potential. This allows you to have a glimpse at who you could be, if you wanted to. This person is usually someone that you idealize and put on a pedestal.

Now let’s look at this explanation more closely. Nowhere does Arianni Masters say that the Soul Mate is the person who you are supposed to be with for the rest of life. Nowhere does this author say that there is one person who is just for you and who will be there no matter how messed up you are to fix your life etc etc. In fact this author makes it quite clear that the reason for these relationship mirrors/Soul Mates is for you, me us as individuals to learn about ourselves so we can grow spiritually and clear karma. It is not about fixing or changing the other person but rather about looking deeper into ourselves and gaining insights that will help each of us to move forward in a positive way.

Quoting Arianni Masters again:

“… the more you clear up issues for yourself, the more you ARE the ‘right’ person, the more you will attract the person you are looking for.”

With that in mind, my comment to past, present and prospective clients who might be in a hopeless place in their romantic lives is simply that the reading is for you and is about where you are at and how you are going to work on yourself. Desperately seeking a so called Soul Mate (as per the common misuse of this term) when you are in a bad will only lead to a situation where you meet a similar negative match because like draws like.

If you are depressed and needy at the time you meet that person you think is the one likely if they are drawn to you they are also depressed and needy also. But be aware that there will come a point where one of you will raise your energetic vibrations and so the connection will become uncomfortable and one of the pair will feel they must move on even if the other does not want to let go of the relationship.

For the one feeling left behind this can be difficult to accept but travelling from medium to medium or psychic to psychic and expecting that they can cast a spell or do some magic or even predict when the ex partner is totally unrealistic. And yet too many people expect exactly that and then become bitter and spiteful and feel abused when they do not achieve the desired result or hear what they so badly want to hear.

The best a medium can do is connect with your deceased loved ones and bring the messages of encouragement forward that they have for you so that you can move forward with your life. The best a psychic can do is tell you the type of person that is a good match for you and give you glimpses into your life situation pointing out possibilities where a change in actions and behaviors on your part might led you to the result you want.

Don’t go to a reader and expect that by some miracle that this intuitive worker will change your life for you. This is not what psychic readings are about. Readings are only a guide for you to consider possibilities that you as the seeker might not have thought of. Readings for most people are a time when they connect with deceased loved ones and find comfort and perhaps some new directions to try. Readers can point you in useful directions but the path you take and the choices you make are yours alone. The only one who can change your life is you!